“Change” is undoubtedly the most fitting word to describe how my life has been over the past couple of months. Change to me, is that which shakes up our comfort zones, propels us to undiscovered territory – we either happily leap into it, or freeze up, too afraid of the outcome. Almost every part of my life suddenly changed in the blink of an eye. Some changes I welcomed and embraced, whereas others were a little harder to grasp.
I love sharing parts of my life with you because, even though I don’t necessarily know you, after all these years, and all your emails and comments, it almost feels like I do! I enjoy connecting with you, perhaps in hopes of you finding inspiration, ideas or simply so you can have someone to relate to. Life is absolutely beautiful (let’s never forget that) but sometimes.. well.. it rains! We all have those quiet times to ourselves when our mind drifts and we reflect on areas of our life that could be improved, things we might want to better about ourselves. Although perhaps not the most “positive” moments, these times are great for figuring out “what do I really want?” These moments present us with opportunities for growth and self-improvement.
I’ve received many emails asking how to deal with change, new environments, new situations, end of a relationship, end of a familiar setting etc. I thought today would be a good day to share my thoughts. When the change is positive, of course we are excited for the new opportunities! But when the change pulls on your heartstrings, it seems easier to dive into bed than deal with the situation head-on.
In midst of dealing with changes in my own life, I thought I’d share some things I’m doing to help myself. For those of you who might be dealing with changes, or just feeling a little “stuck” in life, maybe this will be helpful!
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1. Let there be a “mourning phase”
Allow yourself time to be an emotional mess! This is completely natural and very common at the end of relationships. Cry, get angry, be sad, talk it out until you can’t talk about it anymore. Although I wouldn’t recommend it, if you want to stuff your face with “comfort” food, do it – but make sure it’s somewhat healthy 🙂 or else it could make you feel even worse. If all you want to do is sleep and watch movies, then do it. Allow yourself this grieving time. I recommend keeping this to a few days to two weeks tops! Feel the pain, but don’t drown in it.
2. Be grateful for everything you have
Gratitude is so important, and it can help ground us during the most difficult times. If you might be finding it hard to concentrate on what’s good in life when you’re in a negative head space, then simply take out a pen and paper, and list a few things one by one – or type it up on your computer :). This is also known as a gratitude list 🙂 Keep it with you, and read over it whenever you’re feeling down. Feel the gratitude in your heart when you’re reading your list. I also recommend doing this habitually first thing in the morning, and last thing at night. Remember, “we bring about what we think about!”
3. Get organized
Now that you’ve somewhat come to terms with what’s happened (it’s ok if you’re not all the way there), and you’re in a more positive and thankful headspace – it’s time to think about what you want! First, make sure you’re room / work space / apartment is clean and organized so you’re in a positive clear environment. Take this time to think about what you want to achieve in life, relationships you might want to have, new skills you may want to learn, how you want to look and feel etc. Again, note all of this down and make it your intention to work towards these goals.
4. Find inspiration & get educated
I love finding inspirational people, blogs, youtube channels – and I absolutely love learning about new things! Especially when it comes to health and well-being. Fill your mind with positive, uplifting and interesting things which inspire you. Feel the positive energy in your body.
5. Do something everyday that will bring you closer to your goals
Now that you’ve thought about what you want, it’s time to DO IT 🙂 You have nothing holding you back. Avoid settling for “I’ll do it tomorrow, it’s fine”. If your goal is to get your body into shape, make sure to move your body everyday, even if it’s just for a 30 minute walk. There are also lots of free yoga and workout videos on YouTube to watch (I like doing the yoga ones). I find removing emotion from the situation helps me get stuff done quicker! This works I promise 🙂
6. Envision your future
Journey’s song “Don’t stop believing” plays in my head when I think of this 🙂 Never ever (ever) give up! It’s so important to have a healthy and positive outlook on life (even if it’s challenging at times). One of my goals for example, is to always be healthy, happy and in a peaceful state of mind with an abundance of love around me. I try stay true to this everyday, and I envision nothing but the best for my future.
Remember everything truly happens for a reason. In every new situation lays an opportunity for growth and experience.
I hope this was helpful to some of you! Sometimes it feels like we are all so far away from each other, but we are closer than we know! If you have any tips on how to deal with change, feel free to leave them below in the comments 🙂 It’s always nice hearing from you guys! XOXO